Wow i really dont know what to say in this topic anymore. I think this is out of control. Now religion is playing a part in this which is not cool, and i say this as an atheist. Abuse and control has nothing to do with religion in this context. Edward is not abusive by any means, if anything he is less abusive then Jacob.Jacob kissed Bella without her consent. Edward is however very controlling but not the "im gonna kick your butt if you talk to jacob" controlling, but controlling in the sense that he wants and needs to keep Bella safe. Honestly, if i were Edward I would be doing the same thing, saving someone I loved from scary vampires and werewolves. Edward is a well written character perfect but yet has flaws. He is still a figment of my imagination that i wish were true because more REAL MEN should be like Edward. From going through abuse in my life I would give anything for Edward to be my boyfriend. Its sad in the real world that abuse is all over and that women cant get out of what situation they are in, but Bella knows that she is safe with Edward and that he would NEVER physically hurt her. Plus I dont blame her for wanting to have sex with her husband and getting those bruises like that
i would have. If Bella felt she was in any harm with Edward she would have left. IMHO
mm i don't think amivera meant to put that in there as part of edward's anything, just sort of random! she really didn't mean any harm or bashing! so, calm yourself just a bit please! big deep breaths everyone!
but, amivera, that was a tad tactless.
we are SO NOT turning this into a jacob/edward fight about who is more abusive. it will only get ugly.
there are a LOT of forms of abuse. no, edward would never PHYSICALLY abuse her, but the amount of control he thought he could exert over her was scary.
i don't think bella shows any strength in this situation until it becomes so out of control that it's a real problem. i think it sets a terrible example for women in actual relationships that become this controlling.
i think that the bottom line is that we ALL have control issues, we all wish we could just make everything the way we want it, and we ALL know that the world would be a much better place if everyone would just acknowledge that we know best. that's why we have close relationships, to keep those tendencies in check. yes, edward was out of control, but bella should have put him back in his place. that's how a relationship works. do edward's control freak tendencies make him a bad person? NO of course not! they were certainly bad actions, but they don't make him a bad person, and they are not unnatural nor are they unique.