A truism of life is that we love best those whom we serve most. One of the most bonding experiences parents have is waiting on their infants "hand and foot" for years before they are able to take care of themselves. But Nessie was reading Tennyson at 3 months old! I think it was a disadvantage to Edward and Bella to be--essentially--cheated of those years of caring for their daughter as an infant. It's clear in BD, however, that Nessie and her parents were strongly bonded; maybe protecting her from the Volturi was an adequate substitution for caring for her as an infant!Asheleyo wrote:But father stuff...yeah. I think it's significantly easier for Edward (and Bella) being parents because they get to start off right away with a fully aware child. No development necessary to communicate effectively. If all parents got to start with that I think we'd have a lot more "good parents." So yes, I think he'll be a good father, but I think he'll drift more into a capacity of peer than parent because of Nessie's nature. (Rosalie will be the aunt that unconditionally spoils her niece)
Edward was in a severe emotional maelstrom from the time he learned Bella was pregnant till she woke up -- transformed and happy. For a month he watched the woman he loved--who gave meaning to his very existence--slowly, torturously die
. . . torn apart from the inside--because of him. He was "the burning man," sunk deep in despair.
It wasn't until the very day Bella died that Edward "heard" Renesmee. He had only hours to get used to the idea--the possibility--that he was the father of an actual child, not just a monster. And then, after her birth--before he even had a chance to really look at his gorgeous and amazing daughter--Jacob had laid an irrrevocable claim to her. All of the agony, fear, and pain he and Bella had endured that horrible month had resulted in a daughter that belonged more completely to Jacob than to them! Of course he was irritated! Of course he wanted time to become acquainted with his daughter before he had to give her up to another! Of course he was irritated that of all people, his rival for Bella's love was the man who now claimed his daughter! I'm sure, as a man, Edward wished Jacob had never come back from the wilds of Canada.
In spite of all this, I think Edward behaved admirably. He recognized that Jacob was helpless to control his compulsion to love Renesmee and he gave him as much leeway as he could. But he didn't have to like it.