Just Vent

[twilight813]

Ok this maybe a sensitive topic and I really cant talk about it to friends or family because I am trying to deal with this on my own. So if anyone has any suggestions can you let me know?

Ok so I have been dating my boyfriend for three and a half years. Im 23 and he is 26. Before he meet me he was in a relationship where he did drugs, one in particular GHB. well he almost died from taking that stuff. Its like a liquid form of some other drug i cant think of it now but anyway. So anyway when we meet he was clean for a year and i was just really proud of him. A year well almost a year after we started dating he got into a bad car accident and broke his neck. he had to surgery and he was in a lot of pain for like 6months. so the doctor prescribed him pain meds that were only suppose to be for 6 months and thats it. well last night i was going up to the bathroom and as i was walking up the stairs i forgot something that i had to bring to my mom and i walked into our room (we live together) he was taking a bite out of a pill and i went over to see what was going on. He told me it was something to help him sleep and i believed him because he can be an insomniac. I just want to point out as well that he has taken 800 dollars from me before. he put it back but he told me it was for some other reason other than what i am about to tell you. and for a while he would never have any money after he got paid and i thought maybe he was paying someone off or saving to buy me and engagement ring but that certainly wasnt the case. so ok he took a bite out of that pill and i turned my computer on to come on the lexicon and he asked me to go sit next to him. so i did and he started crying. basically he told me he has been addicted to the pain meds for 2 and half years now and that he stopped taking them 7months ago. he has been self medicating himself with these pills he got online that helps with the withdrawl symptoms. well im sure you can imagine what my reaction is. now i dont know what to do. i mean i know what to do but i am not sure if its the right thing to do. i want to put him in an outpatient facility and get him help from a doctor. i just feel like if he has such an addictive personality that i dont want to deal with this my entire life. i love him with all my heart and soul but i cant be in a realtionship with an addict number 1 and number 2 someone who cant tell me something like this. it took two and a half years to tell me this. my father is an extreme alcoholic and i have been dealing with that for 8 years of my life i cant take care of a drug addict too. does anyone have any advice or opinions? i know its a sensitive topic and im sorry but i dont know where else to turn. i cant tell his parents or his friends because they would kill him. i cant tell my parents because they would kick him out of my house. ugh!

[triciavenice]

He took the first step by admitting it. He will have to figure out why he has an addicting personally, which usually means therapy, but he has to do this on his own, you can't HELP him, he's on his own so to speak.

You can be there for him, and also go to therapy with him.

Your father being an alcoholic sounds like you chose someone like him in a sense, we tend to do that. So you going with him to therapy or by yourself can only give you better coping skills and have someone in your corner.

You can work through your issues, thereby becoming a stronger person which could only better any relationship.

Forgot.... if he is really suffereing from withdrawal there are plenty of community resources out there to help him detox. It won't be easy for him but he can do it, if he wants to.

In my opinion if he really wants to quit and get help, he needs to include his family, he needs all the support he can get. If you can't tell your family, that's fine, its none of their business, its between you and him. As for support, you have it here sweetheart! Also therapy can do wonders! I went for years and feel like I have those coping skills to get throught just about anything, but if something terrible came up and I could'nt deal, I know I can go and seek the advice I need.

[twilight813]

yea i guess. i mean i am just happy that he is willing to get the help. i know from experience that its a brave thing to do to willing know something is wrong and to try and get help for it. i have been thinking about going to a counselor myself because even though i know i am a strong person to deal with this, but it has been with my father and i have dealt with it for so long. but i want to marry this guy and i guess being a significant other its harder.

[triciavenice]

yea i guess. i mean i am just happy that he is willing to get the help. i know from experience that its a brave thing to do to willing know something is wrong and to try and get help for it. i have been thinking about going to a counselor myself because even though i know i am a strong person to deal with this, but it has been with my father and i have dealt with it for so long. but i want to marry this guy and i guess being a significant other its harder.

I agree with you, whats the worst thing that can happen from seeing a counselor? You hate them and don't go again, or possibly, maybe, you have someone rooting for you and professionally and willingly helping you become even stronger! (If thats the right word to use) I agree that your strong and have a great head on your shoulders!

[Edward Cullen Fan]

This may be long, so I apologize in advance.

My doctor thinks I may have a mass on my pituatary gland. The bloodwork indicated it and I have a few of the symptoms. The thing is is that it didn't show up until just a month or so ago. Before I was fine, and I don't know why it's showing up now. I had to go in for an open MRI last Monday so they'd be able to figure out if I had it or not. I'm going to find out the results this afternoon. He will tell me from there whether I need to get it removed or have medicine to take care of it. I'd prefer to get it removed and have it gone. Plus, I have enough medicine with other things as it is without adding to it. The whole concept of this mass thing is scary. I'm always sick with something. It's been like this for almost two years now with stuff constantly going wrong. I just want to get better and stay better. :[

End vent.

[twilight813]

This may be long, so I apologize in advance.

My doctor thinks I may have a mass on my pituatary gland. The bloodwork indicated it and I have a few of the symptoms. The thing is is that it didn't show up until just a month or so ago. Before I was fine, and I don't know why it's showing up now. I had to go in for an open MRI last Monday so they'd be able to figure out if I had it or not. I'm going to find out the results this afternoon. He will tell me from there whether I need to get it removed or have medicine to take care of it. I'd prefer to get it removed and have it gone. Plus, I have enough medicine with other things as it is without adding to it. The whole concept of this mass thing is scary. I'm always sick with something. It's been like this for almost two years now with stuff constantly going wrong. I just want to get better and stay better. :[

End vent.

i hope you get better too. its better that they caught it now rather than letter. its probably one of the reasons why you have been getting sick. the pituitary gland also known as the endocrine gland is important it produces hormones. if you dont have the right hormones throughout your body , your body is thrown off balance. it might just be tissue. but goodluck and let us know how the results come out!

[triciavenice]

This may be long, so I apologize in advance.

My doctor thinks I may have a mass on my pituatary gland. The bloodwork indicated it and I have a few of the symptoms. The thing is is that it didn't show up until just a month or so ago. Before I was fine, and I don't know why it's showing up now. I had to go in for an open MRI last Monday so they'd be able to figure out if I had it or not. I'm going to find out the results this afternoon. He will tell me from there whether I need to get it removed or have medicine to take care of it. I'd prefer to get it removed and have it gone. Plus, I have enough medicine with other things as it is without adding to it. The whole concept of this mass thing is scary. I'm always sick with something. It's been like this for almost two years now with stuff constantly going wrong. I just want to get better and stay better. :[

End vent.

Well it sounds like your on the road to recovery! Hopefully the results will get you in the right direction! I will pray for you and hope all is well. Take care today and good luck

[heartofmp*]

This may be long, so I apologize in advance.

My doctor thinks I may have a mass on my pituatary gland. The bloodwork indicated it and I have a few of the symptoms. The thing is is that it didn't show up until just a month or so ago. Before I was fine, and I don't know why it's showing up now. I had to go in for an open MRI last Monday so they'd be able to figure out if I had it or not. I'm going to find out the results this afternoon. He will tell me from there whether I need to get it removed or have medicine to take care of it. I'd prefer to get it removed and have it gone. Plus, I have enough medicine with other things as it is without adding to it. The whole concept of this mass thing is scary. I'm always sick with something. It's been like this for almost two years now with stuff constantly going wrong. I just want to get better and stay better. :[

End vent.

You'll be on my mind, and I hope all comes out fine...just think positive and try not to stress out too much, try not too look up too much on the internet until you find out what it really is...that makes worrying 10 times worse...please let us know as soon as you find out results...!

[catieolacullen]

NEW VENT! Yippie.
-My ma went to the doctor a few days ago to get a mammogram (I think) and they might have found something...
-My dad might be skipping out again! He did it to me when I was six, he started dating this woman from his work while he was still married to my mother. And I was six, stupid, and oblivious. And yesterday I was at my ma's house and then went to my friends party, and came to my dad's house later than usual and his girlfriend and my brother were the only ones here. Apparently, he left at 7:30AM and he didn't get back until about 5:30PM and kept ignoring us when we tried to call. I really hope he is doing this again but to someone new. 'Cause I still don't really trust him, it's hard to tell what's the truth with him ever. He won't let me in, but he'll barge right into my life, though.

I'm so sorry Edward Cullen Fan and twilight813, and everyone else who has major things going on. And even those of you who don't, good luck.

[debussygirl]

UGH UGH UGH!!!!!!
My dad is being so ridiculous. He is threatening to block the lex!!!!
It's like I'm into porno or something!!! He needs to just butt out!!! I am soooooooooooooo mad at him right now, he just yelled at me a minute ago and whenever I'm on the computer he's peeking around my shoulder to see what's going on. He tells me I need therapy to get me off Twilight, talking like it's a drug or something. Oh, but his excessive need for football isn't unhealthy? I am so ticked right now I feel like I'm going to explode!