What I'm saying is that nobody would criticize you for not being attracted to a guy just because he passes the "Twilight test." That would be absurd.

ohh.. that's always an issue... I hate it when you know that your being polite can be taken as interest. I hate that. hate it... hate it... hate it....Adam wrote:Come to think of it - I'm surprised I did'nt mention this earlier - I was recently set up w/ a girl that was very nice, just not my type. We had things to talk about, common interests, and we were both Twilight readers. There was no chemistry though, at least not on my end. Unfortunately I have a nagging feeling that she mistook my courtesy and politeness for sincere interest.
I guess my point is that you should start the other way around. Look for somebody that excites you, and then hope for the added bonus that they have read (or are willing to read) Twilight, if it is that important to you.
spookybell wrote:ohh.. that's always an issue... I hate it when you know that your being polite can be taken as interest. I hate that. hate it... hate it... hate it....Adam wrote:Come to think of it - I'm surprised I did'nt mention this earlier - I was recently set up w/ a girl that was very nice, just not my type. We had things to talk about, common interests, and we were both Twilight readers. There was no chemistry though, at least not on my end. Unfortunately I have a nagging feeling that she mistook my courtesy and politeness for sincere interest.
I guess my point is that you should start the other way around. Look for somebody that excites you, and then hope for the added bonus that they have read (or are willing to read) Twilight, if it is that important to you.
You have to have that something. You can't fake yourself into interest.
^Yes, that is very well put, T. You've articulated my feelings exactly (except for the Eek, I never make that sound).Tamalyn wrote:
But yea, going along with what Adam said, I was worried the whole time that he mistook my intensity in our conversation & my casual joking with him (which is what I do when I am comfortable around someone) as interest and flirting. Eek. I didn't want to lead him on, but I didn't want to be ingenuine.