Destani wrote:Regarding Edward being abusive:
I think abusive is too strong of a word for me to use personally in this situation but he did go through a very controlling period with Bella. His refusal to even consider the possibility of her seeing Jacob was extremely controlling and in my opinion wrong, although I understand his reasoning. I agree with HOFJ that he should have been more honest and open with Bella about his reasons and they could have discussed it and come to a compromise sooner. But this is a flaw that I see in Edward. He was constantly hiding things from Bella or telling her half-truths. He always had good intentions but he was rarely completely honest with her.
Regarding Edward's relationship with Jasper:
Again I'm going to agree with HOFJ and say that Emmett and Edward have been brothers longer and Jasper was a newer addition to the family. I also think it has something to do with the difference between Emmett and Jasper's personalities. Emmett is very outgoing and happy and easy to befriend. Jasper is quiet and thoughtful and seemed to keep his distance from the family. Jasper is mainly there for Alice. He likes the Cullens but I don't think he would have made the choice to stay with them on his own.
Regarding becoming a vampire:
I think if I were in love, I could deal with that pain to stay with that person forever. I also look at it from the point of view that the pain would only last for 3 days and then I'd have a life that was basically free of all physical pain. As a human, I suffer through injury and disease and even just regular monthly cramping and all that pain would be gone. However I wouldn't choose to be a vampire unless it was for someone I truly loved. I think immortality has it's draw backs, but I won't make you suffer through my ramblings on that. Besides that would get way off topic.
Execellent points, Destani. I also want to note, providing that it hasn't been noted in an earlier post, that Edward did realize that his actions would actually endanger Bella more, so he backed off. He may have had some continuing probelms with her being around Jacob, but for the most part, he changed his attitude towards Bella seeing Jacob, especially after he and jacob talked about Bella going to La Push for her safety until they could figure out who was in her room -so forth.
As far as Edward being abusive - NO he was NOT!! Like the person from the earlier post, I too, know what abuse is, I was married to a horrific man for 15 years, and let me tell you, when you can not even meet your best girlfriend for lunch or even dinner to chat and catch up without him calling every few minutes to see where you are and accusing you of being a "Vulgar Language Is Ugly" because your 10 minutes later getting home than planned, having a .357 put to your head with your two year old in your arms. You lose your job and if you are not out beating the concrete everyday, all day, you are lazy and worthless when you just need to rest for a day - you get the point.
That's ABUSE. Always having to live up to the 'slug' your married to while he's the one screwing around, drinking all day and he's laid off and won't get work and then he accuses you?! - the guilty dog barks loudest!! Finally, 11 1/2 years ago, I HAD ENOUGH. Scared half out of my mind with a ten year old and making 7.50/hr - I left and never looked back. There are all kinds of subtle and in-your-face abusive situations, but Edward's crime here is being to controlling(out of fear for Bella) and not handling this right at all.
At the end of the day, he's is still a good man to me and the best thing in Bella's life - faults and all.
BTW, I'm not saying this out of any anger - truly - I'm just trying to make my point for what that was even worth and I apologize for using this wonderful forum to vent in a personal manner.